Multiple people have called her crazy, some have said she needed to just do something to get her life together. But what they didn’t realize was, they are just like Esther. Yes, I have never been in an asylum, I have never experienced a lot of what she did, and I’m sure you haven’t either, but look a little deeper. Do you know who you are? Neither does Esther! She’s trying to find her identity desperately by being validated by those around her. But no one gives her a chance to choose. And she can’t live up to their standards of perfect no matter how hard she tries. Are you that side of Esther? The over achiever, the straight A student, the one good at receiving scholarships? If you don’t succeed, you are invisible to those around you, you are a disappointment? Esther felt that way too.
Perhaps you hide behind the makeup and glamor like Esther does in the beginning of the novel. You have too many imperfections to get rid of, so you cover them up. You pound on the makeup, or drink away the pain, and get yourself in situations that you wish you could get out of but don’t know how. Esther is the same way. She ends up hard core third wheeling with Doreen, who she really doesn’t even like at the beginning of the book. She tries to associate herself with this gorgeous, “popular” girl that everyone wants. If Esther can reach the perfection that she believes Doreen has, maybe the hole in her heart will be filled. “If I could have that hair color, that size nose, and that body type, then everyone will like me”. Ladies, I especially look to you when I ask, how many of you have thought like that? That is Esther.
Or maybe you are the “care-free” Esther. You are the one who got sick of trying so hard for perfection and always failing, so you stopped caring. You shut yourself up in your room and shut out the rest of the world. Why did you do this? The answer is simple really; you can’t fail if you never try. That’s one reason Esther contemplates taking her own life. And maybe you have never experienced those thoughts, but everyone hits a wall where the pressure is too much and you just stop caring. Even if it’s just for a moment, in that moment you are just like Esther.
Call her crazy, say that you could never understand how she could have such horrifying thoughts. Question why she allows herself to live such a depressing life, and why she doesn’t just change her circumstances. But before you do, ask yourself, am I really any different from Esther?
I am I am I am… Esther.
~Lily